Love More – NSFW

love more

I’ve been reviewing the “8 Pillars of a Nutritious Life” (from the nutrition certification that I hold) and this week we are talking S E X.  So….if you are underage, I’ll see you next time.  Ready?  The next pillar is “Love More, ” and Keri says:

LOVE MORE

Is there a link between low libido and weight? Absolutely! The good news is that not only does losing weight help your sex life but having sex also helps with your weight loss!  First of all, while it’s not (usually!) as strenuous as an afternoon of tennis, sex does burn calories. Second, researchers know that oxytocin – a hormone released after orgasm in men and women, through cuddling, and even by simply holding hands – acts as a soothing antioxidant and may make it easier for people to stick to their healthy eating style.

My daughter and I were chatting a while back, and my jaw dropped when she said to me, “It’s no secret that you have a healthy sex drive.”  I asked her what gave her that idea.  She told me that I joke about it (sex) with my husband all the time, I used to take Burlesque classes, I wear bikinis, and she knows how much I enjoyed “Fifty Shades of Grey.”  Well, if that makes me appear to have a healthy sex drive, I’ll take it!  In fact, I’m glad she thinks this to be true because it shows her that her parents have a healthy relationship.  Am I swinging from the chandelier nightly?  Ummm, no!  Do I make an effort to be flirty and fun vs. frumpy and stale?  You bet!

Whether you are single and ready to mingle or married, the same rules apply.  When you feel good on the inside, it shows on the outside.  This isn’t about looking a certain way to attract a man. This is about feeling awesome so that YOU can enjoy sex.  Wait, what?  Who said it was just for men?  So how do I stay feeling sexy?  Here you go:  

  • I am naked in the mirror every. single. day.  I “get ready” naked.  I usually have music on so I dance and watch myself.  Get comfortable with your body so that someone else can get comfortable with it, too.  
  •  I move my body hard and get sweaty 5+ times a week.  In the words of Elle Woods, “Exercise gives you endorphins.  Endorphins make you happy.  Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands.”  Endorphins make you feel amazing and sexy. If you are sweating, you are releasing endorphins.  
  • I wait until after my husband gets home from work to put on my pajamas and most of the time they aren’t ugly.  If he leaves me in the morning, and I’m in my jammies, and he comes home, and I’m in my jammies…that’s not cool.  
  • When I was single, I smiled, made eye contact and said “Hello!” to random men.  If you are single, this is non-negotiable. Don’t tell me that you have Bitchy Resting Face.  Get over it.  
  • If I get “cat-called” (is that how you say it?), I smile and wave back.  I’m married, not invisible.  Thanks to the men that still see me!    
If you aren’t buying my tips, here are a couple of other sources.  If you are ultra-conservative and still need a reason to be sexy, read “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Dr. Laura.  If you want some deep, metaphysical sexy tips, read THIS from Sakara. 
What about you?  What do you do to feel sexy?  I’d love to know and learn from you.  You can tweet me (if you are comfortable with the subject), reply back to this message or leave me a comment on Facebook.  I’m pretty much EVERYWHERE.  So….find me! 
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